Purpose

What is the meaning of life? Everyone asks themselves at least 27 times during their lifetime the question of, “what am I doing with my life?!”

Some people will say that making a lot of money, and being successful is the meaning of life. Some will say that doing what you love is what’s important, and some will say that being happy is the most important thing.

Our society, and our ways of living over human existence, have created certain views and standards about the meaning of life. We all know about the cycle of going to school, getting a good job, fall in love, get married, get kids, work and die.

Having a family, and expanding our line of genes is the most fulfilling thing you can accomplish in life. In our more modern days, we have flipped our way of thinking a little bit, by saying that if you don’t get kids over the course of your lifetime, but focus on your career and become really successful, you are still accomplishing fulfillment. Is this true? Does money, a good job, or a family make up the meaning of life? If this was the case wouldn’t all people with families and fat bank accounts be the happiest people in the world? And don’t even get started on the people who have both!! A family and a fantastic, well payed job. This is, in most instances not the case. But we can take out the good parts in both instances and blend up a unique drink of happiness;

Being around people who you love and who loves you – A family will provide this. Or a friend, or anything else that is a social being, capable of giving you love.
Having money to buy things that makes us able to live and be happy – A good job with a steady income will provide this (And to the people who are against the thought of being rich, no we need money. Without it we can’t live, we can’t eat, we can’t put clothes on our bodies. Even if you are not looking to become a 100 dollar bill throwing blinged up rapper, you still need money to survive)

What we really need in life is purpose. Not Justin Bieber’s album, but real purpose. A purpose gives you the energy to wake up on rainy days. A purpose makes you run the extra mile, a purpose in life makes you feel alive. True purpose is something that will involve other human beings. No matter if you’re a volunteer building up villages in third world countries, or a lawyer fighting to release an innocent man, or a baker, wanting to fulfill the pleasure of eating something delicious. The feeling of knowing that you did something to make someone else feel good is a feeling that beats everything else. The feeling on knowing that your action made a small difference for the better. That’s why we can see really successful people who are making racks on racks on racks, but who are the most anxious and unhappy people ever. They might be lawyers, but defending someone of guilt. They might be producing weapons that are the cause of mass killings in wars, etc. Or we have the people who’s end goal is to make as much money as possible, but when they get there they haven’t made time for anything or anyone else, so they have nobody to share it with. They end up alone, without love or real social human connection. They were working without a purpose, chasing after nothing more than dollar bills and condos.

The best, and absolute ideal way in achieving a happy, meaningful life is to make your purpose generate an income. How do we do this? We have to take our work, or passion and create a purpose from it.  For example, let’s say you have a very strong passion for rollerblading. It’s all you do. Wake up, roller blade, afternoons, the blades come out again, you’re practically having wet dreams about your roller blades. How would you turn rollerblading into a purpose that would help someone else? Well, you could start up a rollerblading school, teaching kids and helping them explore the magic about it. You could become a professional rollerblader, and become an inspiration for people with dreams they think “will never become anything real”. Maybe you invent a new type of roller blade that are not only used for rolling around, but that also acts as a massage tool, to help people get their stubborn knots out faster than ever. You see where I’m going with this? Or do I need to get more invested in roller blades to come up with more ideas and examples?

When you create a purpose from you passion, you will come up with an original solution to something that is helpful, and beneficial to someone, or something in this world. When you shift your dreams and goals towards the fulfilling purpose, your mind will shift and create a stronger discipline that will make your dreams come true. This my friends, is the meaning of life. Having a purpose, and being the reason for a difference in this world, for one person or for a million people. The feeling of purpose is the feeling of power. The feeling of power makes us feel more alive than ever. If feeling the most alive possible isn’t the meaning of life, I don’t know what is.

“There is no selfless good dead.” – I agree with this, and I don’t think there is. But if doing good makes us feel good, I can’t see the bad.

Swallow the Pill

Have you ever caught yourself thinking about a moment in time when you were a little kid doing something that was so hard and awful to you, and thinking about that same thing now makes you let out a mild chuckle because you were overreacting? How certain things felt like giant obstacles or the end of the world? When you started to cry if your mom got worried over a weird bump on your arm and you thought that meant that you were going to die?

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A day ago I caught myself thinking of the moments when I had to take medicine as a kid. It was a shit show, to put it nicely. I would cry, yell, hide, basically do ANYTHING to get out of taking my medicine. My parents always had to bribe me with chocolate or other things just to make me take the medicine. Taking medicine in a pill form was even worse than the liquid form, or actually, I don’t know… If you think throwing up over the dinner table after a shot of medicine is a good way to go, then maybe you could say that swallowing pills was worse… I hated them equally and when it came to the pills I used to hide them and flush them down the toilet when I was alone. So I actually never took my pills… I’m totally fine though, which makes me believe that most medicines are bullshit anyways. I believe in the power of a healthy diet and lifestyle! *cough* go vegan *cough* exercise (extremely necessary side note). 

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What I’m trying to say is that today I can pop pills on the regular (vitamins, okay, just vitamins, not talking about other things!!) and a shot of tequila is probably worse than the medicine I used to take but now it’s a routine for the weekend turn up. We grow up and we overcome obstacles in our life without really noticing how it happens. Yes, being able to take your medicine is not the biggest deal in the world but whatever obstacles you’re facing right now you will overcome. You just will, life is pretty cool like that. You’re in it, you don’t know what to do, and then all of a sudden you’re sitting at your kitchen table sipping on a cup of tea and you remember the bullshit you were going through and you think “Damn, look at me now, I’m getting paper” (as our friend Chris Brown would say), and then you go back to sipping on your tea with a great sense of comfort and establishment. Maybe you’re even snacking on a cookie, who knows. I hope you are because cookies are awesome and delicious.

Life will always have obstacles, life is a god damn obstacle itself! The beauty of it is that we grow and we learn. Whatever bumps and cracks he have to fall into are meant to be there, to build us and mold us into the people we are supposed to be. So whatever you’re going through, one day you’ll be able to look back and swallow the damn pill.

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Get out of the dumpster

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Some days you will wake up and not feel the best. You can do everything to try to cheer yourself up, fake laugh, tell yourself it’s going to be an awesome day, do a 360 spin in an awkward position in front of the mirror to laugh at your ridicolous self, but sometimes it takes a little more effort to feel great. We get into a negative thought spiral and suddenly we’re not just mad at the day anymore, we’re suddenly mat at ourselves and start to think negative things in general, and there we go. Stuck in a toxic cycle.

I’m mostly a happy person and people tell me that I’m always a happy-go-merry young chica who usually laughs at all times. But lightning can struck and there I am with a dark cloud following me throughout the day. Sucky feeling, we all know. So what to do about it?

Acknowledge it! – That’s the first step. Instead of letting your mind eat your brain up from the inside stop for a second and acknowledge how you’re feeling. Sad? Angry? Hopeless? Anxious? Lonely? Grab the feeling by it’s butt and stare it straight up in the face and say “Okay, I’m feeling this way. This is me feeling this way. How can I make myself feel better?”. It’s hard to go from sad to the most happy little fluff ball in a matter of seconds, but you can always make yourself feel better. Ask yourself  what would make you feel better right now?  Sometimes it’s the most simple things that can increase our mood from totally down the dumpster to getting out of the dumpster. Call a friend or family member, take a walk, watch your favorite movie, get some of your favorite food, listen to happy music, the list of feel good things goes on.

Acknowledge your feelings and talk them out with someone to not let them eat you up alive. Write them down! Get them out of yourself before they manifest deep into your soul (yes, that sounds very dramatic but it’s kinda true) Realize that without the bad days we wouldn’t appreciate and know when we are having a good day. Bad days are okay and a part of being a human, unfortunately. Tomorrow is another day, a better day.

Also, you’re great and you deserve all of the happiness possible!